Many of us spend our lives trying to find our 'home'. Is it about the location, the people, the style? Or is it the stability of a space that we can rely on to always welcome us in.
The World Health Organisation added rights for persons in their home. This includes the peaceful enjoyment of your own possessions, and the right to have friends and family visit in a shared space.
Boundaries are such a hot topic and such an important part of healthy communities. Some believe that independence is the opposite of community but in fact the post-modernist has come full circle. In the past community has been rejected for independence as community was caught up with guilt, co-dependence, and a lack of individual choice. Independent people now seek to reconnect with a community of individuals who can give without destroying themselves, hence creating healthy boundaries.
Where the line is blurred between being a carer and being a martyr, there is pain and loss. Caring for someone is a choice and a responsibility, but it is often assumed that it is a burden to carry alone. Human rights were written for all people, not just those that are disadvantaged.
If your caring role is hurting you then it is time to take a step back and let someone else take over while you breathe. You will come back stronger.
Where do you relax? How do you relax? What are your hobbies?
Are you teaching your children, lover, friends how to relax?
Creating space for yourself, including your mind and your body, and the time to enjoy it is the secret to new ideas, a focused mind, and more happiness in every moment.